What do you do when you are in a mental turmoil?

When your intentions are questioned and hopes are dashed it is normal to be in a mental turmoil and all the positive words are but mirages to you.It is also normal to be go into a mental self-pity and wallow in it. 


Just for a moment stop analysing and just realise that  your mind is in a quandary. 


So the only thing you can do is to bring your mind back to the present moment gently. Absorb your self in the present moment. And tell yourself what you  are doing in the present moment...


In a matter of a few minutes your rippled mind will be serene again. A serene mind can create miracles and open new  doors of opportunity....

Transform yourself to be a better version of yourself

What does a better version of your self mean to you?

We all know that deep down we are a wonderful person. Sometimes due to our instinctive nature we react with anger, frustration, jealousy, fear and say or do things. 

The worst part is that we sometimes  we cling on to things that we did against our better judgement. 

Ask yourself today what a better version of you would talk like, walk like, joke like, work like,think like, smile like.......Visualize  that version.

Start being that version today and soon you  would be one. START TODAY.

How to jump start your future?

♥♥♥When you surrender to the experience of what is happening in your life at this moment all suffering and stress melts away. .Be compassionate with yourself and the rest of your relationships will be easy.Your future starts when you wake up and decide  who you are and what you are.♥♥♥


I am looking for Face Book  friends who walk life in the sunshine of positiveness and hope. Feel free to add me. As i would like to enlarge the circle of digital friends who are making a difference.... Cheerz


http://www.facebook.com/pugalenthii

Are you a prisoner in your own life?

We sometimes waste our valuable energy on chronic complainers, lazy people, blame throwers....the sad part is sometimes we even feel guilty for not being there for them.....Walk away from them not in anger or frustration or resentment but with positive detachment....The truth is it takes wisdom and mental fortitude to walk away from their negative force field. Be free so you could be at your best....

When you blame others for your predicament you are a prisoner.....because unconsciously you have given the key of responsibility of your life to others....Taking responsibility means opening your mind and seeing your failure and adversity as they are and not what you expected it to be....then you will see the seed ofopportunity or the path to your next destination....

Is your mind chattering ?

Many people confuse mind chatter with thinking which it is not. So they wonder why they feel so tired everyday and are not able to accomplish their tasks with excellence.

Mind chatter blocks your creativity, distracts you, gossips about your friends and things a round you, prevents concentration.

When everything is going right in your life, mind chatter will find trouble to destroy that peace and love.

Mind chatter burns valuable energy away. Stop the mind chatter for a moment and you know what i mean...

How to do it?

Just watch yourself when you mind chatters. be aware. When you start observing it will start to ease own and disappear.

When you have silences between your thoughts , then inspiration seeps in and that benefits you.

When was the last time you made a new friend?

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.....Og Mandino


When you think about that line, you realise that most of the times you could have just paid lip service and did not actually care about them. Most of the time people do not know the difference between friends and acquaintances...just becoz you spend more time with a person does not make them your friend.

So set about today with a mind set to be kind and gracious and treat people well. Your life will not be the same again.
One question i always ask myself is when was the last time i made a new friend? For me it was yesterday. What about you? Why are they no new people in your life to befriend you? these questions sometimes will open up your heart to new people who will appreciate you more and make your life heaven on earth.

The Hero Mentality Trap

Recently i have been over worked and i was wondering why the drain in spirit was so intense. When ever i feel disturbed or unbalanced with work load i take a time out and take silence time or just re-reading my own notes. i came across the answer to my own trapped events and i wanted to share with you all. Do ask your self if you are also in the Hero Trap

The Messiah Trap

Reference: Berry, C. B. (1988) When helping you is hurting me. Escaping the messiah trap. San Francisco: Harper & Row.

Do you spend most of your time helping others?
Are you someone who helps even through the hard times?
But do you find that there are times when you just don't have enough time for yourself?

Are You
1. A Pleaser
2. Rescuer
3. Giver
4. Counsellor
5. Protector
6. Teacher
7. Crusader

What is the Messiah Trap?

Side 1: "If I don't do it, it won't get done.'
Side 2: "Everyone else's needs take priority over mine."

The Eight Messiah Characteristics

1. Tries to earn a sense of worth by "acting" worthy.
2. Lets others determine his or her actions.
3. Needs to overachieve.
4. Is attracted to helping those with similar pain.
5. Experiences difficulty in establishing peer and intimate relationships.
6. Is caught in a cycle of isolation.
7. Is driven to endless activity.
8. Stops when he or she drops.

How the Messiah Trap Hurts Others

The Pleaser - Blocking honest communication

The Rescuer - Encouraging feelings of helplessness in others

The Crusader - Is angry at others who aren't dedicated to the cause.

The Giver - Attempting to control others via gift giving

The Protector - Withholding information or breaking confidentiality.

The Counsellor - Promotes one-sided intimacy

The Teacher - Avoids intimacy by being "on stage."

Deadly Secrets ...directed by Pugalenthii .

This is an extended trailer of a short film that i directed that won in the 3rd Indie short film competition in USA . This trailer is being sent for competition too. I hope i get enough hits on the you tube to convince investors to complete it as a feature film. God's grace....Cheerz

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xedG5FxY1cM&feature=channel

"If you can dream it, you can do it

"If you can dream it, you can do it.All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them.” ~ Walt Disney

I was thinking about this quote for a while now. If it was so simple why does it not work for everyone?

You need the flow of cosmic energy to flow and make your dream/visualization into reality. Then why is that so many people have sputtered to failure?

The answers are simple. There are three reasons to it.

1. Most people dream about something and soon get into the maze of mind chatter and are on a roller coaster ride with emotions. When that happens how can visualization become reality.

2.When people dream of something and it starts to happens and when it slowly materialises they change their dream even before the first one is fulfilled..So things fail and they are back to step one.

3. When things start to materialize they become so proud and boastful as if they are one that did everything and start moving away from the centre.They cut the flow of universal energy by their words and behaviour .

Nice Motivating quotes....

Slow down and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you. ~John De Paola

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. ~Chinese Proverb

Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend - or a meaningful day. ~Dalai Lama

If I create from the heart, nearly everything works; if from the head, almost nothing. ~Marc Chagall

...we are all held accountable to the universe for everything we think, say, and do. The energy of dominant thoughts and words creates conditions in our lives. ~Iyanla Vanzant

Steadiness, poise, serenity, and inner peace are signs that you're progressing. ~Dr. John F. Demartini

Mental whispers develop dynamic power to reshape matter into what you want. ...
Whatever you believe in intensely, your mind will materialize.
~Paramahansa Yogananda

That the birds of worry and care fly over you head, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent. ~Chinese Proverb

"When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around." - Willie Nelson

the cause of all his trouble.....

About 500 B.C. it was written: "It easily happens that a man, when taking a bath, steps upon a wet rope and imagines that it is a snake. Horror will overcome him, and he will shake from fear, anticipating in his thought all the agonies caused by the serpent's venomous bite. What a relief does this man experience when he sees that the rope is no snake! The cause of his fright lies in his error, his ignorance, his illusion. If the true nature of the rope is recognized, his tranquility of mind will come back to him; he will feel relieved; he will be joyful and happy. This is the state of mind of one who has recognized that there is no personal self, that the cause of all his troubles, cares, and vanities is a mirage, a shadow, a dream."
~Joel Goldsmith

Is your brain like a radio?

In November, researchers at the Kavli Institute for Systems Neuroscience and Centre for the Biology of Memory at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU) released the findings of their recent study, which reports on a mechanism in the brain that filters out distracting thoughts in order to focus on a single piece of information. This mechanism, comparable to the functioning of a radio, allows your brain’s nerve cells to “tune in” to the right station to get the information needed without being bombarded by a multitude of other thoughts. Researcher Laura Colgin and colleagues found that slow and fast gamma waves came from different areas of the brain, leading them to believe that they act like “carrier waves” which transmit information from one brain region to another. The findings also indicated that different frequencies were used for different functions, with lower frequencies used to transmit memories, and higher frequencies used to convey present experiences. While our brain cells can switch their activity to tune in to slow or fast waves, it seems that they cannot tune in to both at the same time, which is what allows us to focus on one thing without being overwhelmed by too much information.

http://www.superconsciousness.com/topics/news/your-brain-radio

James Cameron

Interesting talk by the Avatar director that all students must watch.

http://www.ted.com/talks/james_cameron_before_avatar_a_curious_boy.html

Elizabeth Gilbert on nurturing creativity | Video on TED.com

Elizabeth Gilbert on nurturing creativity | Video on TED.com

light house

take a look and enjoy this. Cheerz

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=167864259230

4 Types of Problem

4 Types of Problem
According to Drucker, there’s four types of problems:

Truly Generic (individual occurrence is a symptom; Two Different Kinds of Compromises)
Generic, but Unique for the individual institution
Truly exceptional, truly unique
Early manifestation of a new generic problem

sometimes it is good to re read the classics to refresh ourselves.

Highlights from the Research Project on Gratitude and Thankfulness

Highlights from the Research Project on Gratitude and Thankfulness
Dimensions and Perspectives of Gratitude
Co-Investigators: Robert A. Emmons, University of California, Davis
Michael E. McCullough, University of Miami

This is a recent study by University of California on the nature of gratitude, its causes, and its consequences. I would like to highlight some of the findings that I thought will be interesting to smart heart people.



In an experimental comparison, those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

• A related benefit was observed in the realm of personal goal attainment: Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal and health-based) over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.

• A daily gratitude intervention (self-guided exercises) with young adults resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy compared to a focus on hassles or a downward social comparison (ways in which participants thought they were better off than others). There was no difference in levels of unpleasant emotions reported in the three groups.

• Participants in the daily gratitude condition were more likely to report having helped someone with a personal problem or having offered emotional support to another, relative to the hassles or social comparison condition.

• In a sample of adults with neuromuscular disease, a 21-day gratitude intervention resulted in greater amounts of high energy positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, more optimistic ratings of one’s life, and better sleep duration and sleep quality, relative to a control group.

• Children who practice grateful thinking have more positive attitudes toward school and their families (Froh, Sefick, & Emmons, 2008).

Have a compassionate mind.

Having a critical mind does not mean being harsh on yourself. The true secret to successful people is that they are compassionate to themselves.
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People who are always criticising themselves do not realise they are in a judgemental mode all the time. It is fashionable now in our society to be critical to those people who we know and most of the times on people who we do not even know . [ Look at how society lap up the news of celebrities floundering and have a field time making nasty comments on them.]

The fact is people who are on permanent judgemental mode will ultimately ruin friendship by fostering unhappiness and resentment When they are judgemental of themselves they will deprive themselves of cheerfulness and distinction .

Learn to cultivate a compassionate mind . Give yourself the highest praise for even the smallest efforts and achievements. Be kind and cheerful. When you start with yourself you will progress then to be compassionate with others too and soon will pave a path to respectable friendships and successful collaborations.

Start every day to be kind to yourself and watch miracles happen in your life.

Be DIFFERENT

When you wake up in the morning, do you have a dream, maybe not as grandeur as Dr. Martin Luther King but at least a dream to achieve something or do something great or be part of something great for the country or world or humanity at large. OR you just want to go back to bed and hate the dreading day ahead?

Quickly in a few lines can you tell someone your goal with passion? Why does all this matter?

Ninety percent of people are just dreading the day ahead. When you read all the shout out of people you realise they are plodding ahead and not marching ahead to a cherished destination.

Be DIFFERENT. Have a goal to strive for. Get orderliness in your daily routine. At the end of the day be proud of your achievements for that day.

Each day is a block of brick for you to build a magnificent reality for your self based on the blueprint of your dreams.

The magic of 48 mins...

Don Crowther in his presentation at the NSA Summer Symposium, told the audience that 48 minutes is the magic number. Here’s how it works… Set a timer for 48 minutes. Close out all distractions and work continuously for 48 minutes. When the timer goes off, get up and stretch, get coffee, use the restroom etc, in the following 12 minutes. Repeat as necessary.

Don reports that this technique repeated four times a day allowed him to write a 200 page book in just two weeks. The ability to focus on one task for 48 minutes straight was the key.

Using this simple technique you may help streamline your daily activities and complete projects big or small that you have started.

What I have realised is that any technique this or any other can be successful only if you used it with discipline . So go ahead and try this method for a month and note your progress.


“Habits are at first cobwebs, then cables.” - Spanish Proverb