When Things go Wrong, What do you Do?

Gordon Banks, considered the greatest goal keeper that ever lived. Who is famous for his 'Pele save'. The super goal keeper who won the world cup in 1966 by not even conceding a goal until the semi-finals (that too was a penalty).

Did you know that during his two trial games, he let in 15 goals?

When asked how he felt about it, he just said,
"I was not bothered, I just thought I'd go back and play..."

He took positive actions when things didn't go his way. So can you.

Snap out of it.
Don't give in.
Don't give up.

Don't let someone be the
final judge on you.

Always remember the
next test is on the way

Dissolve your thoughts about your mistakes.

Don't give in.
Don't give up.
Snap out of it.

Positive Performance

Imagine it.
Say it.
Write it.
Believe it.
Perform it.

Make it all positive and you will see your performance will be the envy of all the people around you.

You will be astonished at your own results.

You will be astonished at your own performances.

All you have to do simply is

Imagine it.
Say it.
Write it.
Believe it.
Perform it.

The Power of Powerful Memories

When friends get together and we start talking about times when something funny happened to you and within minutes and most times, within seconds, we all will be laughing our heads off.

Our brains are trained to react to images as if they are real, even when it is not. The brain does not know the difference between imagination and reality. It only knows how to respond.

"I am the greatest; I said that even before I was...."
- Muhammad Ali

Everyone knows he is the greatest boxer.

You have to repeat and imagine you being great at what you do and it will become a reality.

Go for it. No half-hearted effort, hald-hearted measures.
Go for it.
Give it 100%
Be unbelievably dedicated.
Go for it.

What you say is what you get.

Go for it.

Can you make the things happen that need to happen?

What separates you from your success?
Many people think it is luck, being at the right place at the right time, who you know up the ladder of success. The truthful answer is that none of the above.

What then separates you from your success.What keeps it at a distant that you yearn for but cannot yet touch it?

Answer this question truthfully.
Can you make the things happen that need to happen?

You make this particular change and you will see the difference in your life. Things will start to change for the better. Think about it. You decide and then every thing begins to change for the better.What is stopping you from doing the things that you already know need to be done?

As for me, this is what I believe.
Everyone is good. The purpose of life is to make that goodness into greatness.

Fly High

Did you know that aerodynamically the bumble bee should not be able to fly? Its wings are too small to support its body weight. But, it still flies. Do you know why?The bumble bee does not know that it can’t fly.

There will always be people around you who rationally logically and sometimes aggressively tell you that you can’t fly to achieve your aim. At moments like that you must remember the bumble bee. Fly High.

Sometimes the odds are against you. Situations might seem rather impossible to overcome. At moments like that you must remember the bumble bee. Fly High.

Sometimes you do not get the attention or recognition that you deserve. Sometimes people will go out of their way to highlight the impossibility of the conditions you are in. At moments like that you must remember the bumble bee. Fly High.

Your true power is within you. Fly High.

Communication

Why is it so that when some people communicate, everyone listens and enjoy but when others communicate, people shut their mind to them?

The simple answer is when you communicate you must not fixate on the outcome by insisting on being right.

Trying to be impressive is not impressive.

Listen to the tone as well as the content of the other person with an open mind and heart.

Communicate with honesty tempered with compassion and mutual respect.

The power of routine

Does your household have a routine?

Routine allows students to blossom in a positive way. A regular routine will normalise chores, meals, tv-time, homework and allowing fun-time.

Disorganize families tend to sow habits of disorganization into the children.

Set a time-table for a week. Time to go to school, what activities to do after school, plans for the weekend, organizing meals etc.

Make the time-table a success and you will see everyone has more free-time to have fun and to nurture themselves.

What is character?

How will we behave and respond to a situation even if no one is watching us. The way we behave is determining by what we think of ourselves first and foremost.

Ask yourself, when you are alone taking a ride in the bus or taxi, when you catch yourself being alone, ask yourself, what do you think of yourself.

If we have impressed in our mind and heart that we are a great person with a wonderful personality then the way we behave will be like that of a great person with a wonderful personality.

When you see your friends misbehave or act rude, vulgar and even at times violent remember that they are behaving like that because they have impressed in their heart and mind that they are not a great person with a wonderful personality.

What is your character?

Balance of energy

To ensure you have enormous balance of energy you can follow these steps.

1. Get enough sleep. Teenagers need 9 1/2 hours a day.

2. When you get up-think of 3 things you are grateful for. Feel your body with that happy energy.

3. Play a game, do things that brings joy to you.

4. Avoid unnecessary/excessive talking.

5. Avoid volunteering for unnecessary tasks and do not take on more responsibilities then you can handle.

Energy and you

Every day every one of us wakes up with so much energy. We use that energy in our studies and activities throughout the day. At the end of the day we go to sleep to recharge again. The cycle continues every day in our life.

How is it then some are successful and some just manage a above average performance?

The answer is easy.
To find out who is successful you just have to look at those who are able to balance the energy throughout the day.

The beauty of Education

Henri Matisse, when he was a young painter visited his master Renoir, a renowned painter who was suffering from arthritis. While watching the old painter paint, he realised that every brush stroke Henri made, made him cry with agony. He would cringe with pain and then paint another stroke and feel the torturing razor cut like pain through his finger. He will paint again and again.

Matisse asked his master, “You have achieved so much, why do you still punish yourself by painting. The agony you go through is too much.”

Renoir smiled and said, “The pain I suffer and will pass but the beauty I create will remain forever.”

When you are pursing your studies, remember that though it may be agonising, it is not equivalent to the suffering of Renoir. The beauty of education is that it will never leave but stay with you forever.

Good student

A student asked Confucius on what makes a good student.

Confucius replied, “A person who listens to what I say and adapts my teaching to his current life, avoiding any blind obedience. A person who finds a job that buys him dignity. A person who leaves a lasting impression but does not try to be impressive."

Confucius and students

During one of their conversations the students of Confucius asked him a question."

"Why don't the master go and talk to the emperor as no one can speak so eloquently?”

Confucius smiled and said that the emperor himself makes lively and wonderful speeches.
The students not accepting the answer said, “Then both of you will have so much to talk about.”

Confucius took a moment and answered, “Wonderful speeches are nothing more than polish of techniques, they do not themselves contain any virtues.”

“What is the secret of virtue then master?”

“The knowledge on how to use mind, heart, discipline and emotion.”

The Virtue of Patience

Like me, you might have many moments when in hindsight realised that a little patience would have been a better solution on your part.

So what is patience?
We all know what we do when we lose our patience-we are annoyed, irritated and frustrated.
Patience is the ability to find the beauty of the moment.

The great thing about patience is that it can be acquired by deliberate practice.

Can you think of places where you can practice patience?
The more you use it deliberately, the more you can harness it.

How to be the REAL you?

1. Have solitude time. Spend time alone by yourself, e.g. taking a long walk, browsing books in the library, or even just having coffee by yourself.

2. Decide things for yourself. You must be aware of your choices and deliberately choose what you like to wear.

3. Be connected to your community. Participate in activities with your school and community centre. By working with others around your area, you will be able to define yourself.

4. Make a list of board games and sports that you enjoy and express yourself.

5. Read novels. It is the best way to figure out what it feels like to be someone else. Imaging so many characters is how your head will help define and distinguish the real you.

Are you NICE to yourself?

1. Can you face the mirror and say wonderful things about yourself for five minutes?

2. Can you go through the whole day without any negative self-talk/ self-criticism?

3. Can you say positive things about yourself to your friends?

4. Can you play a board game or computer game without caring whether you win or lose?

5. Can you stop being a "yes-please"(someone who says yes to everything and everyone)?

How do you want your brain to be wired?

Teenage years are the pruning down of cells and connections. Those connections that are being used will survive.

So if you as a teen, play sports, and work hard at school learning new stuff or play a musical instrument then all the cells and connections will be hard-wired for your adult hood. But if you are lazy, on the sofa always watching television or playing a video game repeatedly then those are the connections that are going to survive.

So how are you going to optimize your teenage brain?

Teenage Brain

Teenage Brain undergoes a radical re-development seen in the rest of the human body.

With the advent of brain scans (magnetic resonance imaging technology), the neuroscientist is able to study the living brain in the real time of an adolescent.

2 main changes

1. Growth of fatty insulation around the electrically charged neurons (the message-transmitting cells). This extra insulation increases the speed of transmission a hundred fold.

2. "Synaptic Pruning"- means in the early years of growth, the pruning back of critical connections or synapses that link neurons to one another.

Dr. Sarah Jayne Blakemore, a cognitive neuroscientist at university college London, says that teenagers are more self-reflective than prepubescent children.

Teenage Brain and Sleep

In a adult human brain, the body clock is on for about 16 hours a day. The body switches off for around 8 hours and we fall asleep.

With younger children the pattern varies by age. Babies sleep for nearly 12 hours but by 9 and 10 years they reach adult pattern of sleep.

Research shows that teenagers, till they reach 20 years old need 9 1/2 hours of sleep a night. (Dr. Mary A. Carskandon, of Brown University and EP. Bradley Hospital Providence, Rhode Island)

When your body clock switches off, the brain produces a hormone called melatonin that makes you sleepy.

If a teenager goes to bed late then they are having a short fall in their sleep requirement due to late homework and early school hours.

Is it really beneficial to sleep early as a teenager?
3000 Rhode Island teenagers were tested on their sleep habits. Those with most sleep got As and Bs and the rest got Cs and Ds.

Strength based Self Motivation

You must find out what is your strength.
Many people are trying to figure it out even as adults in their working life.
Use your education as a way to find your strength.

How can you define strength?
Perfect performance in a chosen activity.

People always say learn from your mistakes. That is the long way around. What you learn from mistakes are only the characteristic of the mistakes.

If you want to succeed, learn about your success- Study your success.